Dating other people during separation


28-Dec-2017 03:53

Dating and intimate relationships create some questions for people who are separated but not yet legally divorced. From a legal standpoint, there are two things you need to consider. North Carolina requires that spouses live “separate and apart from each other” with at least one of them intending to end (terminate in legalese) the marriage. You have to live in a separate residence — not in separate rooms of the family house, not even in a separate apartment over the family garage — but in an entirely separate location.

That’s it: [1] separate residence and [2] intention to end the marriage.

You do not have to file a legal document to begin a separation, although some people prefer to do so.

Second, once you are separated, are there any restrictions on forming relationships with other people? With limited exceptions, once you are separated, you are generally free to date anyone who wants to date you with one big exception.

If you genuinely like someone, that’s a great reason to date them.

But if you’re just looking for a way to feel less lonely, it’s a sign that you’re not done with the healing process yet. But finding that out early on is the only fair thing to both of you.

If you’re ready to move on and you decide to say yes to a date, be honest with your potential partner from the very start. You don’t have to tell them every detail of your marriage breakdown, but do let them know that the divorce is in process (if it’s not you might want to rethink dating until it is), and be clear that reconciliation with your ex is not something you want.

Find somewhere to serve short-term so that you can get exposure to people.

On the other hand, you’re still legally married and some ties are still there.